Family, Identity

Stories About Grandma

June 28, 2026

There are a number of stories I can tell about Dad’s Mother. From being asked/told not to Come Out to her to the bits and pieces I (thought I) knew of her story. Although I regret not getting to know the person behind the title [read more]

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Uncle Orville Remembers Dad

September 24, 2020

This post is primarily for my nieces, nephews, and their various offspring. This is the text I read at Dad’s funeral. His brother (my Uncle Orville) was not able to fly in for the service. These are his memories of growing up with Dad. When [read more]

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Ancestor Work

August 27, 2020

“Ancestor Work” is quite a popular discussion in New Age/ Metaphysical/ Mystical Arts Business circles these days. I’ve held off doing it for myself… without being able to verbalize exactly why. I have a great relationship with my biologicals. As someone who’s become an Elder [read more]

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After The Bath

September 23, 2016

As a young gay man in the ’80s I was not only a regular patron of Toronto’s bath houses (“steambath” or “men’s health club“), I worked the overnight shift at one for a summer. Although I did not have the exact genealogical details memorized, I [read more]

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To My Nieces & Nephews

September 22, 2016

An Open Letter To My Nieces & Nephews: It’s been ten days since Dad (Grandpa to you) passed. Five since the funeral. You are each returning to your adult lives- partners, children, school, career, all those things that interfere with a good night’s sleep. I [read more]

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Grandma – In Detail

August 10, 2015

A Guest Post by Dr. James B. Lyttle as a follow-up to my post of two days ago. Grandma was born November 3, 1900 in Belleville, Ontario to Cameron Brown and Margaret Sarah Ross. Her dad was born February 3, 1870, in Hamilton Ontario. He [read more]