Family, Identity

An Update On My Memoir

February 15, 2026

Are you thinking “I didn’t know he’s writing his memoir!“? That’s OK, so was I when a friend asked me for ‘the latest update’. My reply was that there are no immediate plans for one; which is true enough. But the question rattled through my [read more]

Family, Identity

What’s My Gender?

January 27, 2026

An interesting question. To the extent I think about it, I identify as male– although with the understanding that I am very much a GNC: Gender Non-Compliant male. As a sexually-active gay man with a Husband in ‘modern Western society’ I am clearly out of [read more]

Family, Identity

The Price of Freedom

November 27, 2025

Regular readers and visitors to my various social media accounts (these days I’m primarily on Insta) know that my husband and I are working to move to Canada. As I’m a Canadian (actually, dual) citizen I can sponsor his application for Permanent Resident status up [read more]

Family, Identity

All Hallows Eve

October 28, 2025

Hallowe’en is well-known (at least in my world) as a Big GAY Holiday that has all the celebration of modern gay pride parties without the direct connection to our painful history. That’s not meant as a criticism; there’s plenty of evidence that celebration (laughter and [read more]

Family, Identity

What is Love?

October 12, 2025

When I was interviewed by K for the Lost Spaces Podcast he asked me (in response to something I’d said) ““what is love?” My off the cuff my response was “the greatest joy and the greatest heartache all wrapped in one” (at 26:04 in the [read more]

Family, Identity

R&P and The Naked Gun

August 24, 2025

My ND brain: The Naked Gun and Romanovsky & Phillips. Talk of the new version of ‘The Naked Gun‘ led to me thinking that the original version starred Leslie Nielsen who also starred in ‘Airport‘. Nielsen and his elder brother Erik (a long-time member of [read more]